Choosing our partners, the whole process seems to go through stages. First, we become aware of someone’s physical appeal, and their fun personality (or vice versa). Second, what follows is the discovery that we have certain interests, principles etc., that are common to us. Third, we come to a state of mental arousal, where we begin to “click”, before finally, a more meaningful, psychological attachment develops.
Six Aspects of Bad Relationship Patterns
Physical sensations: Something your boyfriend or girlfriend says or does, leads to a familiar physical sensation that is very uncomfortable, for instance, a headache or an upset in your stomach.
If you have bad relationship patterns, then I’m sure you’ll recognize these feelings:
But for many of us, things hardly ever go this cleanly. Instead, we go through what are called ‘bad relationship patterns’, where we continually begin relationships that are initially full of promise, only for them to finish up in disappointment and sadness. If this sounds familiar to you, if you suffer bad relationship patterns, then you need to learn to recognize what the problems are. This is the only to escape from that constant cycle of heartbreak and sadness.
Feeling of loneliness: At the end of the relationship, you experience a sense of deep loneliness. Where you once enjoyed a ‘connection’ with someone, now there is only emptiness, regardless of how painful or stressful that relationship was.
Conflict: Never mind how you felt about your boyfriend/girlfriend, deep down you always knew something wasn’t quite right about the relationship. You had feelings of jealously, uncertainness, anxiety or stress due to the relationship you were in.
Obsession: You think that it is your own actions or words that push your partner(s) away, though you remain certain that you can repair things and transform the object of your desires into the adoring, loving person you desperately seek.
Repetitiveness: Lots of your relationships started full of promise and hope, only to badly fail later on. Even though the people involved are different, the ending always turns out badly.
Vulnerability: You have a deep-seated vulnerability; you are very conscious of your own ego and as a result are always attempting to ‘prove yourself’ to your partner.
If you experience one or more of the symptoms mentioned above, and you struggle to forge long-lasting relationships, then you might have an issue with bad relationship patterns. So what can be done about this? Quite simply – you need to understand your own psychological needs are. By understanding yourself, you will see the forces at work that push you into the clutches of undesirable partners. Once this is known, you will easily be able to avoid bad relationship patterns and into a more enjoyable, loving relationship that you seek.
Six Aspects of Bad Relationship Patterns
Physical sensations: Something your boyfriend or girlfriend says or does, leads to a familiar physical sensation that is very uncomfortable, for instance, a headache or an upset in your stomach.
If you have bad relationship patterns, then I’m sure you’ll recognize these feelings:
But for many of us, things hardly ever go this cleanly. Instead, we go through what are called ‘bad relationship patterns’, where we continually begin relationships that are initially full of promise, only for them to finish up in disappointment and sadness. If this sounds familiar to you, if you suffer bad relationship patterns, then you need to learn to recognize what the problems are. This is the only to escape from that constant cycle of heartbreak and sadness.
Feeling of loneliness: At the end of the relationship, you experience a sense of deep loneliness. Where you once enjoyed a ‘connection’ with someone, now there is only emptiness, regardless of how painful or stressful that relationship was.
Conflict: Never mind how you felt about your boyfriend/girlfriend, deep down you always knew something wasn’t quite right about the relationship. You had feelings of jealously, uncertainness, anxiety or stress due to the relationship you were in.
Obsession: You think that it is your own actions or words that push your partner(s) away, though you remain certain that you can repair things and transform the object of your desires into the adoring, loving person you desperately seek.
Repetitiveness: Lots of your relationships started full of promise and hope, only to badly fail later on. Even though the people involved are different, the ending always turns out badly.
Vulnerability: You have a deep-seated vulnerability; you are very conscious of your own ego and as a result are always attempting to ‘prove yourself’ to your partner.
If you experience one or more of the symptoms mentioned above, and you struggle to forge long-lasting relationships, then you might have an issue with bad relationship patterns. So what can be done about this? Quite simply – you need to understand your own psychological needs are. By understanding yourself, you will see the forces at work that push you into the clutches of undesirable partners. Once this is known, you will easily be able to avoid bad relationship patterns and into a more enjoyable, loving relationship that you seek.
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